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Friday, January 25, 2008

iT FEELS GOOD TO BE YOUNG!!!!!!

i'm always young at heart..but not what I used to think... my soul has been refreshed today in a different way..i don't know..maybe i am thinking too much of my age..they say that as you grow old, your energy is inclined to slow down...but ironically, this is not what happening to me... i don't know.. i was renewed and my soul has regained new energy... do you know how it feels go back on your age 10 years younger? i am still acting like a child but the feeling is quite different....wew!!! and what an energy!!! my age? oh!forget about it!! i doesn't show on my physical looks even the way i dress..haha!! i still look like a teenager... right now, i literally feel like a fourteen year old gurl about to bloom.. its because of the song performed by The Click Five. The title is "Time Machine" and the lyrics goes like this:

"Time Machine"

Oh what mess
you've got the best of my heart
It broke and now it's just a joke
Cause you're moving right along
I'm still here and you're gone
Oh what shame
You know I didnt mean for the winds to change
Won't ever be the same
Cause the kisses that you blew
Could never ever move

Chorus:

I think I need some time by myself

Without anybody else

I just need to unwind

In my time machine

I need to go far away

A few years back would be ok

I just need to unwind

In my time machine

Hey you
Ya i'm talking to you
You lost the love in bed
And now it's just dead
Cause it didn't mean a thing
Waiting for a ring
Hey it's a game
And ain't it a shame that it's just a show
I thought that this was love
But I can't be fooled again
I'm cryin' out
But I can't give in
All the things that we could change
(things that we could change)
Now we'll never be the same
By Myself
I don't need anybody else
I just need to unwind
In my time machine
In my time machine

hahahaha!!i can't help but laugh my ass off!! how this song can significantly feel this way!!i really feel like moving freely and dance stangely as long as i want..inside our hearts are souls with deep desires to be a child again because we are tired to think about the harsh of life can offer...i realized that sometimes, for a while, i need to give up being a grown up mature person and move wildly..breathing the life,,,taking the advantage of this exhaustible strength the force of the life can provide...
i don't know if i am undergoing the process of regression..14 years old..10 years ago..that was indeed a sign of regression..lol!!but it feels good to be one..to go back on my teenage self..just happy and uninhibited...full of vibrant energy...
sometimes, i wanna take plunge..give up the authourity and privilege that i am taking charge and take full responsibility of my life...
sometimes, i wanna forget how far iv'e grown..what are the thing i already achieved..just wanna be a teenager, a little child once again...
it feels good...to bring back the kind of stength thta you have when you were on your younger years..it feels good to feel like a little gurl by heart...by soul..my sould is regaining that kind on stength..its soo strange but its happening.....
i know the reason behind this and i wanna thank Him for making me feel this way..i will never forget this wonderful gift, this mysterious miracle...

Thursday, January 24, 2008

nOthing mUch exCepT.............


Hmmm..i miss blogging lately..but not really writing because I am so busy with other stuffs..nothing much new to me except of my new haircut..im still d same old sassy fun to be with crazy smart ass gal who have ups and downs.. the past few days are filled with excitement and adventure...yeah i still feel depression but not much as compared with the past few months..i am in love..not with some dorks that you're thinking.. i am in love with the kind of life im living though sometimes i feel depressed, downhearted, and sometimes, empty..but nevertheless i bounce back from normal, being simply contented with the kind of life i have.. i am generally happy and contented as my spirituality keeps on growing..hmmm..whats my new stuff?

nothing much..my fondness on emo songs are strongly increasing..but i also felt an addiction towards rock christian music...thanks to my workmate hir and brother...my playlist is filled with christian music....

and my new outfit???!!lol!! only for this day i think.. but i promised it to myself.. i wanna give myself a try..but im still thinking about since i am not that comfortable.. but nevertheless i am happy with these "changes"..lol!!!

i keep on learning..i still love life though im a bit disturbed that is why I am playing emo songs on my media player to scream for me...grrrr.. i am pissed the past few days because of a good-for-nothing son-of-a-bitch asshole..but hell!!! i would say that i could kiss my ass for saying he's still the luckiest bastard on this side of the planet..d irony but the cold truth stabs like a double edge knife on me...

yeah!a bastard..sonofabitch..asshole..lucky piece of shit!!..but he is still lucky...well well well...
i don't give a damn... how come the insignificant creature will have a place on this blog? naaahhh!!!well, at least i am giving a space for myself to be completely stupid and dumb-sucking idiot..

wew....well..life must go on...i don't know if i hate him until now..i just want him to get rid out of my system royally...i know it has a purpose..(like this fucking entry!!) ..i just dnt know yet..wow!!exercising the power to choose and positive perspective..i am in charge of my life..i thank my Mighty Creator for being there for me.. oweiz..for loving the hell out of me..

but generally I am happy w my life..problem? naahh!!it shouldn't stop me from enjoying my meaningful life..problem is a part of it and im embracing my troubles with arms wide open..under the sunlight..welcome to my life!!(hahahaha3!!) now thats life!!we have problems but we just have to shrug them off..deal with the constructively and creatively.... you need it to make you a better person...sometimes it feels good to be an idiot..when you remember them, you can simply laugh them off and feel good about it later...

they may say life sucks!but who cares??life is life.. im living it..savoring every moment of my existence..lol!!just enjoy..take a plunge while you have the chances to breathe...

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

COGNITIVE ERRORS AND POSTIVE ATTITUDE

I’m on the mood to write since yesterday. I’m glad I am bringing back my concentration after few months of destruction. I have to admit that I’m occasionally depressed but I am cleverer to handle it. My roommate is right al along when she told me that you are the ones making yourself miserable. Yeah I completely agree with her. It’s what we call cognitive errors in psychology. And I was listening in ok fm awhile ago before hauling my ass on the work.

Few of them reminds me about having the positive perspective in ramdom order.

When you are broken-hearted, this means that you can love selflessly

When you pay taxes, this means you are unemployed

When your house is dirty after the party, this means that you have friends to celebrate

When you receive many txt messages, this means that you are well-remembered

I guess the positive attitude has deepest impact for me. I am in control of my life. I should not depend myself to anybody when I can choose how will I respond to a situation. Well this doesn’t necessarily mean that I am exempted from having emotional disequilibrium. Wow! Psyche jargons again! lol! Yeah I am still vulnerable from pain but it’s all up to me if I will dwell on my adversaries deeply. Sometimes it’s me who really hurt me and not anyone. Although some people intentionally hurt other people. How? I’ve listed some of the cognitive errors I search in wikipedia: They are causing toxic personality that might be detrimental on our personality disposition.


Decision-making and behavioral biases

Many of these biases are studied for how they affect belief formation and business decisions and scientific research.

* Bandwagon effect — the tendency to do (or believe) things because many other people do (or believe) the same. Related to groupthink, herd behaviour, and manias.

* Base rate fallacy — ignoring available statistical data in favor of particulars

* Bias blind spot — the tendency not to compensate for one's own cognitive biases.

* Choice-supportive bias — the tendency to remember one's choices as better than they actually were.

* Confirmation bias — the tendency to search for or interpret information in a way that confirms one's preconceptions.

* Congruence bias — the tendency to test hypotheses exclusively through direct testing, in contrast to tests of possible alternative hypotheses.

* Contrast effect — the enhancement or diminishment of a weight or other measurement when compared with recently observed contrasting object.

* Déformation professionnelle — the tendency to look at things according to the conventions of one's own profession, forgetting any broader point of view.

* Distinction bias - the tendency to view two options as more dissimilar when evaluating them simultaneously than when evaluating them separately.[1]

* Endowment effect — "the fact that people often demand much more to give up an object than they would be willing to pay to acquire it".[2]

* Extreme aversion — the tendency to avoid extremes, being more likely to choose an option if it is the intermediate choice.

* Focusing effect — prediction bias occurring when people place too much importance on one aspect of an event; causes error in accurately predicting the utility of a future outcome.

* Framing — by using a too narrow approach or description of the situation or issue. Also framing effect — drawing different conclusions based on how data are presented.

* Hyperbolic discounting — the tendency for people to have a stronger preference for more immediate payoffs relative to later payoffs, the closer to the present both payoffs are.

* Illusion of control — the tendency for human beings to believe they can control or at least influence outcomes that they clearly cannot.

* Impact bias — the tendency for people to overestimate the length or the intensity of the impact of future feeling states.

* Information bias — the tendency to seek information even when it cannot affect action.

* Irrational escalation — the tendency to make irrational decisions based upon rational decisions in the past or to justify actions already taken.

* Loss aversion — "the disutility of giving up an object is greater than the utility associated with acquiring it".[3] (see also sunk cost effects and Endowment effect).

* Mere exposure effect — the tendency for people to express undue liking for things merely because they are familiar with them.

* Moral credential effect — the tendency of a track record of non-prejudice to increase subsequent prejudice.

* Need for closure — the need to reach a verdict in important matters; to have an answer and to escape the feeling of doubt and uncertainty. The personal context (time or social pressure) might increase this bias.[4]

* Neglect of probability — the tendency to completely disregard probability when making a decision under uncertainty.

* Omission bias — The tendency to judge harmful actions as worse, or less moral, than equally harmful omissions (inactions).

* Outcome bias — the tendency to judge a decision by its eventual outcome instead of based on the quality of the decision at the time it was made.

* Planning fallacy — the tendency to underestimate task-completion times.

* Post-purchase rationalization — the tendency to persuade oneself through rational argument that a purchase was a good value.

* Pseudocertainty effect — the tendency to make risk-averse choices if the expected outcome is positive, but make risk-seeking choices to avoid negative outcomes.

* Reactance — the urge to do the opposite of what someone wants you to do out of a need to resist a perceived attempt to constrain your freedom of choice.

* Selective perception — the tendency for expectations to affect perception.

* Status quo bias — the tendency for people to like things to stay relatively the same (see also Loss aversion and Endowment effect).[5]

* Unit bias — the tendency to want to finish a given unit of a task or an item with strong effects on the consumption of food in particular

* Von Restorff effect — the tendency for an item that "stands out like a sore thumb" to be more likely to be remembered than other items.

* Zero-risk bias — preference for reducing a small risk to zero over a greater reduction in a larger risk.

Biases in probability and belief

Many of these biases are often studied for how they affect business and economic decisions and how they affect experimental research.

* Ambiguity effect — the avoidance of options for which missing information makes the probability seem "unknown".

* Anchoring — the tendency to rely too heavily, or "anchor," on a past reference or on one trait or piece of information when making decisions.

* Attentional bias — neglect of relevant data when making judgments of a correlation or association.

* Availability heuristic — estimating what is more likely by what is more available in memory, which is biased toward vivid, unusual, or emotionally charged examples.

* Availability cascade - a self-reinforcing process in which a collective belief gains more and more plausibility through its increasing repetition in public discourse (or "repeat something long enough and it will become true").

* Clustering illusion — the tendency to see patterns where actually none exist.

* Conjunction fallacy — the tendency to assume that specific conditions are more probable than general ones.

* Gambler's fallacy — the tendency to assume that individual random events are influenced by previous random events. For example, "I've flipped heads with this coin five times consecutively, so the chance of tails coming out on the sixth flip is much greater than heads."

* Hawthorne effect — refers to a phenomenon which is thought to occur when people observed during a research study temporarily change their behavior or performance (this can also be referred to as demand characteristics).

* Hindsight bias — sometimes called the "I-knew-it-all-along" effect, the inclination to see past events as being predictable.

* Illusory correlation — beliefs that inaccurately suppose a relationship between a certain type of action and an effect.

* Ludic fallacy — the analysis of chance related problems with the narrow frame of games. Ignoring the complexity of reality, and the non-gaussian distribution of many things.

* Neglect of prior base rates effect — the tendency to neglect known odds when reevaluating odds in light of weak evidence.

* Observer-expectancy effect — when a researcher expects a given result and therefore unconsciously manipulates an experiment or misinterprets data in order to find it (see also subject-expectancy effect).

* Optimism bias — the systematic tendency to be over-optimistic about the outcome of planned actions.

* Overconfidence effect — the tendency to overestimate one's own abilities.

* Positive outcome bias — a tendency in prediction to overestimate the probability of good things happening to them (see also wishful thinking, optimism bias and valence effect).

* Primacy effect — the tendency to weigh initial events more than subsequent events.

* Recency effect — the tendency to weigh recent events more than earlier events (see also peak-end rule).

* Regression toward the mean disregarded — the tendency to expect extreme performance to continue.

* Reminiscence bump — the effect that people tend to recall more personal events from adolescence and early adulthood than from other lifetime periods.

* Rosy retrospection — the tendency to rate past events more positively than they had actually rated them when the event occurred.

* Stereotyping — expecting a member of a group to have certain characteristics without having actual information about that individual.

* Subadditivity effect — the tendency to judge probability of the whole to be less than the probabilities of the parts.

* Subjective validation - perception that something is true if a subject's belief demands it to be true. Also assigns perceived connections between coincidences.

* Telescoping effect — the effect that recent events appear to have occurred more remotely and remote events appear to have occurred more recently.

* Texas sharpshooter fallacy — the fallacy of selecting or adjusting a hypothesis after the data is collected, making it impossible to test the hypothesis fairly.

Social biases

Most of these biases are labeled as attributional biases.

* Actor-observer bias — the tendency for explanations of other individuals' behaviors to overemphasize the influence of their personality and underemphasize the influence of their situation (see also fundamental attribution error). However, this is coupled with the opposite tendency for the self in that explanations for our own behaviors overemphasize the influence of our situation and underemphasize the influence of our own personality.

* Dunning-Kruger effect — "...when people are incompetent in the strategies they adopt to achieve success and satisfaction, they suffer a dual burden: Not only do they reach erroneous conclusions and make unfortunate choices, but their incompetence robs them of the ability to realize it. Instead, ...they are left with the mistaken impression that they are doing just fine."[6](see also Lake Wobegon effect, and overconfidence effect).

* Egocentric bias — occurs when people claim more responsibility for themselves for the results of a joint action than an outside observer would.

* Forer effect (aka Barnum Effect) — the tendency to give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people. For example, horoscopes.

* False consensus effect — the tendency for people to overestimate the degree to which others agree with them.

* Fundamental attribution error — the tendency for people to over-emphasize personality-based explanations for behaviors observed in others while under-emphasizing the role and power of situational influences on the same behavior (see also actor-observer bias, group attribution error, positivity effect, and negativity effect).

* Halo effect — the tendency for a person's positive or negative traits to "spill over" from one area of their personality to another in others' perceptions of them (see also physical attractiveness stereotype).

* Herd instinct — Common tendency to adopt the opinions and follow the behaviors of the majority to feel safer and to avoid conflict.

* Illusion of asymmetric insight — people perceive their knowledge of their peers to surpass their peers' knowledge of them.

* Illusion of transparency — people overestimate others' ability to know them, and they also overestimate their ability to know others.

* Ingroup bias — the tendency for people to give preferential treatment to others they perceive to be members of their own groups.

* Just-world phenomenon — the tendency for people to believe that the world is "just" and therefore people "get what they deserve."

* Lake Wobegon effect — the human tendency to report flattering beliefs about oneself and believe that one is above average (see also worse-than-average effect, and overconfidence effect).

* Notational bias — a form of cultural bias in which a notation induces the appearance of a nonexistent natural law.

* Outgroup homogeneity bias — individuals see members of their own group as being relatively more varied than members of other groups.

* Projection bias — the tendency to unconsciously assume that others share the same or similar thoughts, beliefs, values, or positions.

* Self-serving bias — the tendency to claim more responsibility for successes than failures. It may also manifest itself as a tendency for people to evaluate ambiguous information in a way beneficial to their interests (see also group-serving bias).

* Self-fulfilling prophecy — the tendency to engage in behaviors that elicit results which will (consciously or not) confirm our beliefs.

* System justification — the tendency to defend and bolster the status quo, i.e. existing social, economic, and political arrangements tend to be preferred, and alternatives disparaged sometimes even at the expense of individual and collective self-interest.

* Trait ascription bias — the tendency for people to view themselves as relatively variable in terms of personality, behavior and mood while viewing others as much more predictable.

Memory errors

Further information: Memory bias

* Beneffectance: perceiving oneself as responsible for desirable outcomes but not responsible for undesirable ones. (Term coined by Greenwald (1980))

* Consistency bias: incorrectly remembering one's past attitudes and behaviour as resembling present attitudes and behaviour.

* Cryptomnesia: a form of misattribution where a memory is mistaken for imagination.

* Egocentric bias: recalling the past in a self-serving manner, e.g. remembering one's exam grades as being better than they were, or remembering a caught fish as being bigger than it was

* False memory

* Hindsight bias: filtering memory of past events through present knowledge, so that those events look more predictable than they actually were; also known as the 'I-knew-it-all-along effect'.

* Suggestibility: a form of misattribution where ideas suggested by a questioner are mistaken for memory.

Common theoretical causes of some cognitive biases

* Attribution theory, especially:

o Salience

* Cognitive dissonance, and related:

o Impression management

o Self-perception theory

* Heuristics, including:

o Availability heuristic

o Representativeness heuristic

* Adaptive Bias

See? Our minds are powerful to destroy us. Why can’t we use its power to bring us prosperity, growth, and happiness instead of destruction? I keep on asking this on myself. We feel more whole the more we are trying to bleed ourselves.

Saturday, January 5, 2008

A Celebration of Gratefulness and Thankfulness

It’s my 24th year of my existence, a day when God gave life on my human flesh. I promised to myself that I will be happy no matter what happen. And I will ask nothing but t be more grateful and thankful for the thousands of blessings I have received and continuously receiving until now. God is so good! I never expected of countless greetings I received today its enough for me that they remember my special day. It’s enough for me to realize that I am truly blessed and loved by God. I am overwhelmed with this happiness it is outpouring the space of my heart. I wanted to cry because I cannot contain this joy. It badly needs to be shared. I need to tell those people who have touched my life in so many ways. I know, I owe it to them. They need to know it. But most of all, I wanted to let God know how I deeply value the gift of life He has given to me. I may run out of words to express the kind of gratefulness I am feeling right now but never will I forget it made a significant impact on my life. I know at this very moment, my life will never be the same.

I want to return these blessings. I’m asking my Lord what does He want me to do for Him? I can’t answer that right away. He will reveal it to me through His words in scriptures, through people that I deal with everyday, or through my daily experience.

Now this is the start to discern in connection with this wonderful celebration.